Meet Asher James Lemp
Born July 3rd weighing just 5lbs 4oz.
Life has been a whirlwind for our family, these past few months. We found out just a few weeks ago that a mother had chosen our family for her baby. We met her a few days later and during that meeting, found out that her scheduled c-section date had been moved up and would happen just a few days after that!
We had agreed to have our profile shown to lots of other moms over the past few month. All of their situations were ones of crisis. Reading about each of them made us appreciate how strong they were to have chosen life for their babies. What struck me was their deep desire to break the cycle of addiction and abuse in their families by giving their baby the gift of a new life outside that circle.
Asher was born dependent on methadone
This has begun a whole journey of education for us. We’ve been listening to his nurses as they share, through tears, how much of an increasing issue methadone dependence has become in our country.
What this means for Asher right now…
is that we’re taking it one day at a time.
He cannot leave the special care unit for at least four full days. Many times, the severe symptoms of withdrawal do not appear until the fourth day, as more and more of the birth mom’s medication leaves his body. He is given a score every four hours, based on a long list of markers that they look for; is he sleeping well by himself, how severe are his tremors, how well is he eating, how tight are his arms and legs, etc. His score has held steady at a seven, but if he receives two or more scores of eight, the Dr will more likely start him on morphine, which will prolong his recovery and mean an additional 2 weeks in the hospital (at minimum).
The good news is, his little body appears healthy, strong, and developmentally perfect! The short term challenges he will face are heartbreaking to watch, but the long term affects of methadone are small to none.
Currently, he is on an IV to keep his blood sugar up and a tube to supplement his feedings. He is so tiny, he doesn’t quite know how to suck from a bottle, but he is learning!
Please pray that he continues to eat on his own and hold his sugar stable without the help of an IV!
Please pray for Asher’s birth mom, as she faces a long road of physical and emotional recovery. We have not been able to see her yet, but we sent gifts to her room and are hoping to talk with her today! She is so sweet and truly wants to give Asher the gift of life within a loving family. We are so honored that she chose us to do just that. It has been such a blessing to hear through her nurses, how she has talked openly about us and how happy she is with her decision to choose our family.
With how quickly all this has happened, we haven’t had time to finish our fundraising process. We were JUST recently approved for a matching grant through Lifesong, and they will allow us to continue to raise funds even though Asher is already here. BUT, our final bills will be due in the next week.
Total cost of adoption = $24,000
Money we’ve raised so far through YouCaring = $5,000
Money we’ve saved through blogging income, t-shirt sales and Town Peddler sales = $8,000
Amount approved for matching grant = $3,000
Amount we still need to raise = $8,000
You can read more about our decision to fundraise, here: Is it Wrong to Fundraise for an Adoption?
If you would like to help us bring Asher home, you can give through our new Lifesong account. All gifts are TAX DEDUCTIBLE: Lemp Family Adoption
Give to the Lemp Family Adoption Fund
All gifts are tax deductible!